Monday, May 10, 2010

eHarmony / eQuality

After a prolonged and difficult break-up, Katherine decided to make a fresh start. She started working out with Jimmy to get back into shape and set up an eHarmony account to find a guy that'll treat her the way she deserves. I can relate to the stuff she's going through. I did the break up thing and got a trainer and have begun feeling normal again. But, I've never seriously started dating again. Sure, a speed date here and dinner with older guy there, but those don't really count.

She suggested that I set up an eHarmony account so I could find someone. She made her case. Anyone on there would be someone looking for a serious relationship. If they just want to hook up, they could use Craigslist for free. It would be a good way to meet people that's more civilized and safe - no bars or clubs and no alcohol would be involved. And that's a good thing because I may say that I want a husband, but when I drink, I tend to just want...well, never mind.

So, I figured that I'd give it a shot. Here's where the second part of the blog title comes into play. I went to eHarmony.com and said that I was a man interested into men. They offered to take me to their sister site, CompatiblePartners.com. Apparently, eHarmony can't handle all the extra work of matching gay people. I put in my basic information. Before I could move on, I read the little asterisked paragraph at the bottom. It said that the compatibility / matching techniques were only tested on straight, married couples. They couldn't guarantee my results. That's right; I forgot that gay people are a different species. I forgot that we don't feel emotions the same way, can't describe our goals the same way, or click boxes with our personality traits the same way that straight people can. That's a short side note, but it's pretty offensive.

After filling out what seemed like a million boxes about myself, I finally saw that I had six initial matches. I can see their profiles and read a little about them. I can't talk to them or see their pics until I fork over the money first. It's $25 a month and it's billed quarterly, so it'd be one payment of $75 for 3 months. Hmm...it's tempting. Katherine even said that she'd give me $20 for doing it. But, as she and I were walking to the cafeteria to get lunch today, a guy walked past and looked me up and down (focusing on the crotch). I realized that if I really wanted a guy, I could just get one. If I had wanted him, I could have looked him up and down and smiled. I don't think I'll sign up for eHarmony's red-headed stepchild, sister site.

And then after all the work of inputting all my hopes and dreams, my likes and dislikes, my strengths and weaknesses, Chris texted me and asked if I'd like to go on a proper date. All that work and I got a date the old fashioned way...well, the 2010 old-fashioned way. I’m a little excited. I’ve never really done the whole dinner and a movie kind of date. It doesn’t help that I’m re-watching Sex and the City and just crave romance. Oh well, I’ll just see what happens.

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